I know it's been a while since I have posted. So sorry about that, I have actually been pretty sick so take care of yourselves! Drink plenty of Orange Juice and get your rest! With that being said here goes with a post that has been long overdue.
If you are a Bride, please read this!! Hopefully it will help you survive your quest to find the perfect dress. If you are a MOB, FMI, or any other member of the Bride's Posse that has the honor of being asked to come with the Bride when she shops for her wedding gown, then you need to definitely read this because it really pertains to you.
When shopping for a wedding dress, Brides PLEASE try to limit the amount of people that you have coming with you. I know for some of you it's hard. Let's face it, this is a once in a lifetime opportunity so everyone wants to be a part of it. But just be ready to face the dangers of too many onlookers.
First of all, it's your dress and even if someone else is paying for it, it's still your dress. What ever you do, don't forget that. Say it to yourself over and over if you have to , but again It's Your Dress! And it's about your dream and it's about YOU!
It always amazes me that some of the most unopinionated people suddenly can become naysayers or negative nilly's when it comes to the wedding dress hunt.
I have to tell you that there is nothing worse to see a bride try on a gown, come out of the dressing room beaming and even saying "this is one" only to be shot down by someone Else's comment.
In that moment, it is truly like watching the air fizzle out of a balloon. All of the lofty feelings the bride had have just been shot down in an instant! And for what? All because of someone commenting on the dress who wasn't going to be wearing it. Ridiculous!
Recently I had a bride contact me numerous times about a dress. Here is the gown, a Leontina Gowns wedding dress that is rather simplistic, but very chic in nature.
The bride wanted to try the gown on so badly that she drove from the Upper Peninsula of Michigan (an 8 hour trip) to my boutique so that she could see for herself if the dress was for her.
She brought a huge posse with her and they even contributed to our local economy by staying at one of our Inn's.
She tried on other gowns, and we saved the one she really wanted as her last. As soon as we put it on, she began crying and hugging me proclaiming that she new it was "The One".
Out of the dressing room we went, with the Bride looking radiant and everyone else seeing how happy she was Until... her future mother-in-law completely shot her down by exclaiming that it was too plain and not traditional enough. "I just don't like it and I don't think my son will either." What A Blow!
Being the brave bride that she was, she sucked back her tears of sorrow, kept the dress on for as long as she could, got some pics of her in it, and eventually left the store and the dress behind.
The rest of the posse was pretty taken aback as they knew that dress was what they had come for. Her mother tried to negate the comments but to no avail, the damage had been done.
Everyone except the FMI tried to convince the bride that it was OK and that they would find something else, or if she really liked it, she should go ahead and get it. Too late, the damage was already done and the dream was gone.
Now, I just got an email from the Bride who was married 2 weekends ago outside in a beautiful fall setting. She ended up with a traditional a-line dress that she did look lovely in, but later confessed that she hated the dress, felt less than attractive in it and told her Husband the entire story.
Once she showed him the picture of the dress and pictures of her in the dress, he was furious. He LOVED her in the dress and felt that it was more like what he had envisioned her in because he could see the dress was totally her. Needless to say, I don't know all of the details as to what has transpired since then, but I can not imagine that it was too pretty.
She has now ordered the dress and is going to have her husband wear the same suit he wore on their wedding day and get pictures of just the 2 of them. They are also planning a small after party over Thanksgiving in which she will wear the dress and be photographed in it.
Not all people have the luxury of affording another dress, and a photographer, but her Husband took care of all of this for her. (obviously she needs to hang on to him!).
So I caution you, if you aren't the bride make sure you place her feelings above yours, Period! It's not about you, it's about her. Simply consider this; it is an honor, not a right to be asked to go dress shopping with the Bride. If you are the Bride, you are the only one who knows exactly what you want and don't let anyone or anything keep you from it.
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